Tuesday, January 23, 2007

Modesty: Not Just For Yourself

My good friend, Francis, who runs Filipino Flavour, has long wrote on the topic of female modesty.

In the not so distant past, the topic of modesty was seemingly common sense, but in the wake of society's secularization, has now become a highly charged and emotional issue.

It is a topic that is not always well-received. Many young women, emboldened by the changing attitudes in modern society, take offense at his reiterations of cherished traditional values.

For reasons which are often too easy to understand, they have chosen to intentionally ignore their duty to their honour, their dignity, and that of their families by presenting oneself in a modest manner at all times.

No, they disagree, we do not care about your silly, outdated notions of virtue.

No, they clamour, you have no right to tell us how to dress.

Indeed, if a woman has made up her mind on how she wants to be viewed, there is only so much we can say on the appropriateness of female attire. However, there is something still to be said.

Modesty, however one chooses to see it, is not merely for oneself. Should a woman choose to ignore time-honoured notions of virtue and dignity, that is her business and none of ours. However, if a woman lacks the bearing, self-assurance and figure to carry off racy outfits, it then becomes an offense not only to us, but to the general public.

I have had my appetite put off too many times by the sight of gluteal clefts ('butt crack', as some of us call it) during lunch. If a woman wants to display a certain area of her body, then please, for the love of all things good, let is be worth displaying! Surely one displays such areas, it is for the sole purpose of inciting erotic thought and desire, or at the very least, admiration for the human form - why should anyone want to exhibit flawed, unsightly, pockmarked regions of the body, only to draw feelings of repulsion and disgust?

For example, if a garment is made to emphasise a woman's ample bosom, women who lack such an attribute should avoid them as much as possible. It is truly painful and sad to see people happily deluded about their appearance. For if one lacks the necessary qualities, one should be tactful to keep the offending organ (or lack thereof) out of sight.

I speak of social responsibility - one does usually not display gangrened scars or tumours with pride, and likewise, one should be prudent enough. It does not bother me as much if one lacks virtue, but one who is selfish and thinks nothing of the masses who have to look upon one's appearance.

Truly, as the popular saying goes, "If you have it, flaunt it." To that, may I add, "If you don't, please have pity on our eyes."


Blogger Francis said...


I'm not entirely sure how to go about responding to your recent post (nor the ones before it). This is...an interesting turn of events, and this is (more than likely) not precisely what I had in mind when I wrote all of the articles you liked to. Let's see what the others think.

Most curious...


Tue Jan 23, 09:53:00 am 2007  

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